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Clear and Useful Lessons for Expressing Love I read this book while single and with no one in mind. It is meant for couples so that they can better understand one another, but the ways of looking at relationships and how to express love in a way such that the other person will know is applicable to all relationships like friends etc. The five love languages are; physical touch, gifts, words, acts of service, and quality time. The theory behind the book is that each person will have one or two primary love languages. When they want to express love to someone then they will do it in the way that most resonates with them. Likewise they will feel loved when someone else is "speaking" their love language. The Five Love Languages was easy to read but at the same time had very good information. It is written by a marriage counsellor speaking from a christian perspective. He brings in examples of couples he has seen who loved one another but felt mutually unloved, because they were expressing that love in their primary love language and not their spouses. His way of working with them involves teaching each person to express love in their spouse's love language and to recognize when their spouse is expressing affection in a way that they may not notice. Chapman spends one chapter on each love language and explains what he means by it. This is good information that one wouldn't neccessarily guess from the term he uses. For example if someone's love language is gifts then it is just recieving the gift that resonates with them and not the monetary value of the gift. So leaving notes or bringing home something small a few times a week would be more warm and fuzzy than buying one expensive gift and then doing nothing for a month. Understanding these love languages has helped me to see what others mean when they act and to better love those around me. This is a really neat way of looking at love and it's expression. It is from a christian perspective and is for couples, but others would benefit too. If you are curious about this way of looking at love then this book is worth investigating.