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If you have an agenda don't read this book I am really surprised by the negative reviews I have seen here. I tend to think many of the reviewers are stay at home mothers (I am one myself) that had an agenda when they first picked up the book. It is not about making a case for working mothers nor is it about staying at home. It is about the pressure that motherhood has become; the goal for perfection. The idea that if you choose anything other than staying at home you are harming your child. If you just want to validate your decision read a Dr. Laura book (a working mother herself. I don't think she is writing books and conducting a daily radio show from her son's bedroom.) The anger I have read here is a perfect reason we have to look at what society is doing to the role of mother. (Notice I said role of mother, not "job" "career" or "CEO." To equate being a mother to a job is really undermining its importance. No job will ever be as important to me as being a mother.) This anger and competitive "I am a better mother than you because I stay at home" rantings I see on the web is the best illustration of unhappiness. I think being a mother is the best thing in the world, but I have NO NEED to put down the parenting practices of other mothers. I loved this book. I have not read anything else like it and it perfectly described the conflict of wanting to be a good mother and have a life as well. She does not offer much advice in her book, but as a thoughtful reader I can come up with those myself.