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Is this encouraging? I first heard about this book on TV and found the idea intriguing, perhaps it would even be informative. After all, we women sometimes need all the encouragement we can get. Even more, we need someone to help us understand men and what their mixed signals can mean. Mostly, from what Greg Behrendt, the male of the team, says, mixed signals mean "he's just not that into you." But what about compromise, getting to know one another, giving a little, taking a little? Nope. There's no encouragement here for the woman hoping to find true love and a long lasting relationship. It's easier to hope that Greg is looking at the negative side of things and is blinded to the possibilities. On the other hand, Liz Tuccillo expresses what most of us have felt or hoped when confronted by a man who's never there for us, or is loving one moment, cold the next. Surely, if we are patient and loving, he will realize what a wonderful catch I am and everything will end happily ever after. Greg tells the reader often that he's found the woman of his dreams, and that even he treated women ambiguously before that. Does that mean there is still hope for the rest of us women, that one day the right man will come along? Given the negativism of the bulk of this book, it's almost impossible to believe. This book can give some insight into the minds of men who are giving us signals we can't read. But taking the whole as the entire truth, may be self defeating. Surely there is a middle ground, between what the man says and what we hope for. Otherwise, we might be too tempted to either settle or just give up.